Saturday, November 23, 2013

Disabled people vs. Non disabled people

I will not go into detail where I was today , But I will say that I was at a Leadership Conference for disabled women and that was an amazing and inspirational experience :) !

I am not sure that it would be a good idea to disclose the names of the speakers at this conference , But I definitely want to share what they said and what I learned and liked .

In the disability community we fairly know the phrase " Nothing about us without us "

Today I heard the same phrase and also a tiny re-phrasing of that piece and this re-phrasing was not worse or better , But just as good !

The phrase I heard today was " Nothing without us "

So when you read the phrase " Nothing about us without us " it means , Do not make any decisions about or for disabled people without disabled people !

The phrase " Nothing without us " means disabled people need to be included and it should and must be obvious that disabled people be included in everything that concerns society !

I also heard something else interesting !

The society does not like saying " A disabled person " instead people rather say " A person with a disability "

Although I understand that the society is making these so called corrections to not insult disabled people , But here is a question that comes to my mind ; Why cannot disabled people decide how they want to be called ?

If an autistic person wants to call him or herself autistic instead of calling him or herself a person who has autism ,  Why does the society want to correct that person ? !

Disabled people are the ones who are supposed to decide what they feel compfortable with and not the society !

The only responsibility or duty that the society has is to include everybody in the decision making .

So if the society wants to show respect , Understanding and acceptance for disabled people then all the society has to do is listen and accommodate and respect the wishes of disabled people .

Because if an autistic person is requesting a particular accommodation or wants to be called autistic , Why are people saying no to that ?

Autistic people know what they are talking about !

Include everybody into our society and we will be able to appreciate eachother's gifts and create a better community !

Thank you for reading .


Monday, November 4, 2013

Bigotry And Ignorance

I am fed up !

Every time an individual in a hospital or jail or elsewhere kills him/ herself , The Management or other authorities say that they are sorry and that there was no indication that the said individual was struggling and so nobody could predict or immagine that "This" would happen .

Wrong !

If a person kills xerself then that means that there were plenty of indications !

The person before killing oneself was screaming for help , Was asking and or requesting for any help that exists , But the person was not Listened too !

The person was simply Ignored and or simply told to be patient and that Everything will go Well or that it is " Just your immagination " !

I am telling you right now !

If a person feels scared , Threatened or both then you Must take it seriously !

I do not care even if that person takes medication !

And if you think that the person is someone who does take medication , Then educate yourself about the individual ASAP !

Talk to the individual about his or her fears and ask if he or she takes meds and ask the nurse or anybody who works close with the person if the person takes meds !

But talk the person ASAP and Never say ; We will take of everything , Now you just destract yourself with something that you enjoy and everything will be fine "

Never Ever say that , Because that is a sign that you are Not taking the concerns or fears of the person seriously !

Any outhority that treats the person the way I described is Guilty of the suicide of the person !

I do not care if you are just "Doing your job" or if you say that you have a load of casework , You are Still guilty !

I am obviously very angry while I write this , But I am writing this because I know this happens a lot due to " Beurocracy ) and I am writing also about what I have experienced or seen .

And in case I did not make my self clear enough , This concerns all dead individuals including people with a variety of disabilities including Autistics !

Thank you for reading