Sunday, November 29, 2015

Anti -Depressant , Meditation and other equivalent approaches

People reading The title will be surprised why I am writing about Anti - Depressant and Meditation

From.a medical standpoint anti - Depressant helps stabilize The chemical inbalance in The brain that causes depression which is true .

But what doctors and psychiatrists are ignoring is the fact that ant - Depressant has become FASHIONABLE if so to speak only in the past aproximately 20 years .

People have had depression for decades !

Doctors used to recommend walks in The forest , Change of diet , Change of environment or change of social life .

Some of it helped and some of it did not .

Nowadays if you say you have depression , Your doctor immediately prescribes anti - Depressant as opposed to discussing with you in dept about what is happening in your life and even if they do ask you about you t life , They still prescrib anti - Depressant as if that were The solution to ALL worldly problems !

There are two different reasons for depression ; 1)

Chemical inbalance that can be caused by varius brain injuries or simply by an on born chemical in balance in The brain anything related to The immune system/  Immune deficiancy .

2)

Beyond stressful environment including work , Family,  Social / Relationship and or living environment .

Any of the above mentioned can cause anxciety and or depression !

Many people take anti - Depressant to calm their mind which makes perfect sense !
But ! And yes I have a HUGE BUT !

Anti - Depressant does NOT work o t help EVRYONE !

If anti -Depressant does not help , Then try something NON chemical like healthy diet , Excersis or Meditation and or Yoga .

And I will admit that even the last ones I mentioned will not be efficient if you are affected by your environment meaning if your environment causes you to be sick then you have to change your environment .

Unfortunately sometimes it is difficult to change your environment when it is not in your hands meaning when you cannot choose due to lack of funds or other obstakles that are beyond your control.

Thank you for reading !

Dusya

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

God And Raising Children

I am now since almost 4 months a Nursery leader at a non denominational church that still includes Jesus and his teachings .

I lead The Nursery with a couple and despite that non of us has children of our own , Many parents are full of gratitude and praise .

But that is actually beside the point ( Just short background information)  .

Anyways , I cannot help but observe the parents and how they seem to raise the children.

In my time ( 1981-2000) or at least till 19 95 discipline was part of raising children.  I was never spanked , But I was raised with assertiveness and patients and love .

These children in Nursery though seem or at least some of them obviously NEVER heard the word no .

I do understand that parents are thought that these are God's children and that they are innocent and all , But from my perspective that does not mean that they should not be disciplined .

I am.not thinking here as a religious person or atheist,  I am using common sense .

Even The old testament,  People who go to read the 10 commandements, But that does not mean they immediately stop lying , Stealing or anything else that The testament talks about !

It is the parents job to teach their children right from wrong by saying no when necessary and those who teach children,  But not GOD !

Parents and teachers in religious institutions are supposed to follow the teachings of The leader and use their own mind as well .

Being a parent is a lifetime responsibility and if you are religious,  You do NOT hand that responsibility to GOD ! You let God GUIDE YOU by following what you remember from your own child hood that you appreciated and what you have seen other parents do that was impressive.

Thank you for reading

Dusya


Monday, August 31, 2015

Religion And Death

It breaks my heart to see people confused when they loose a loved one and think they should not be mourning because their loved one is now at peace :( !

I have had my fair share of grief and mourning and for me believing in GOD does not mean that I cannot cry for the people who died .

Believing in GOD or not , You have the right to feel sad ! You have the right to mourn !

Loosing a loved one is an indescribable sad experience and not feeling grief is IMPOSSIBLE because that is what makes us human and empathetic !

Thank you for reading

Dusya

Friday, July 31, 2015

Racism vs Racism

I thought I knew what racism is because I have seen racism as long as I have been on this earth ( 33years ) .

Now I realize that there are probably to versions of racism and I am confused :( !

I have known my whole life that if a white person in authority does not give a black person a job or denies a black person education and or basically denies a black person rights then that is racism .

This makes sense to me in terms of that when you deny a black persin their rights BECAUSE of their skin color then you are being racist .

But I am confused about how you can even be racist when you apologize if you are making a racial comment ?

Or how is a person racist for saying ; I do not see black ?

Although my late father was a terrible person , But when he said that he does not see the color , The black person he spoke to knew he meant that he just sees a human being .

When I am exhausted,  I cannot think clearly .

And I am afraid that when I am very exhausted and I am around people,  I am probably not going to say a single word for fear of being perceived as racist :( ( I am very sad ! )

My mother thought me when I was a teenager that it is OK to make a mistake when you are around good people because the said people know you had good intentions.

Thank you for reading !

Dusya

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Gender Identity

I volunteer as a Nursery teacher at a Church and while I am watching the toddlers and older children,  I also observ them in terms of their behavior and how they interact with eachother.

We almost have a mix of boys and girls and I say almost because it varies from Sunday to Sunday .

I can definetly say though that we have more girls than boys !

Regarding my observation , I think a lot about the parents I read about on Social media and The parents I listen to when I have the opportunity to watch a documentary on how parents raise their children.

The said parents take the gender of their child as an obvious because their perception is ; My child is to young to understand his or gender or my child does not understand that he or she is a girl /Boy .

From my observation in The nursery though I can assure you that these children know fairly well their gender ! I am not saying though that all children are like that , But MOST are .

The little boys do NOT WANT to play with girls ( Like all little boys in toddler and older age ) .

The other adults find it cute when the boys start a tantrum , But how else are boys supposed to say " I am a boy ! I do not play with girls ! "

On one hand I smile when I see it because it makes sense , But on the other hand I have to shake my head because everybody should know that it is not a good idea to force boys to play with girls unless they want to .

Thankfully we have a male teacher with us as well and so the boys are a tiny bit more approachable , But they wi barely listen to women like me and another female teaher with whom I share the responsibility ;) !

Thank you for reading

Dusya

Saturday, May 30, 2015

Feminism Today vs 200 Years ago

   Feminists approximately 200 years ago fought for women to have the right to vote .

In The 60's and later Feminists fought for women to have equal rights .

Now we are in The 21st Century , We have women who vote , Women who are pilots , Lawyers , Doctors and even have government related jobs like being a City Councilor , Mayor or Attorny General or even a Secretary Of State !

We have come certainly a LONG way !

Now Feminists are fighting against Rape , Denied right to abortion and other issues that involve a womans freedom of choice .

What this all comes down to is that women must have equal rghts for decision making and no man should force or deny women any of their rights !

I want to state though that I am very concerned because I realized that now we have TWO SETS of Feminists !

There are Feminists that truely are fair and want women to be heard as it is a constitutional law ( Please feel free to correct me if I am mistaken ) and a law signed by UN .

Girls and women have the right to an education , To live safe etc....

On the other hand I see that there is another group of women who also call themselves Feminists,  But they are so upset that they forgot the true meaning of Feminism !

Feminism is about women who are nurturing and at the same time fight for their family when needed and fight for their own right to protect their family .

Men do not always have the strenght to fight so much and so women do this important task !

Women are ying or yang to what men are not able to do and I am worried that some Feminists are too upset to grasp this :( !

Thank you for reading

Dusya 

Friday, March 27, 2015

Electro - Magnetic Therapy

I read an article in Scientific American a month ago about the above mentioned therapy and I was HORRIFIED when I read that it would be a substitute to pills in the future !

You CANNOT use Electro - Magnetic therapy for every disease and as a cure !

I repeat ! You cannot put all Immune Disorders and such in a pot !

Electro - Magnetic stimulatin CAN help , BUT ! And this is a BIG BUT ! 

There are some health condititions that require pills or Accupuncter or surgery and other kinds of therapy .

But you CANNOT use Electro - Magnetic therapy for Cancer , Alzheimer and other !

Some people cannot even tolerate electro - magnetic impulses !

For some people actually it can actually HARM their immune system and or neuroligy !

I went once to a neuroligical examination ( I will not go into details here ) and during the examination I felt heat passing through my body and from time to time I was jumpy due to different sensations .

After the examen I felt constant numbness in left leg and it took a week or so for my leg to back to normal .

You will probably say that that was a harmless side effect and although I agree , I will tell you right now that I was lucky and that for others the side effects could be WORSE !

Doctors and Scientists will probably tell me to shut up because I do not have a graduate degree for this subject , But I will say right now that you do not need a graduate degree to understand this !
Formostly you need COMMONSENSE !

And doctors and scientists in the medical and research field really should know better !

Thank you for reading

Dusya

Monday, March 16, 2015

Inspiration vs . Motivation

I have read in the past articles and newspaper stories and read comments like " She is an inspiration " or " I am not your inspiration thank you very much ! " .

I had to think about the meaning of " Inspiration " and I especially had to think about this word when somebody close to me said once ; You inspire me !

And ever since I have been intensly about what inspiration means .

I looked it up on Google and then I decided to look up the definition of " Motivation " and I realized that there isa significant difference between INSPIRATION and MOTIVATION.

Motivation is when a person does something courageous or something that you would never expected that the said person would do maybe due to a disability and you think to yourself ; I have the same disability or I have similar issues , But if that can do it then I can try it too !

An inspiration on the other hand is an IDEA meaning a writer for instance reads a poem or looks at a picture and likes the story behind the poem or picture and in that very moment is inspired with an idea for a new novel / Book .

A good example for motivation is a documentary I saw a couple of months ago .

The title of The documetary was

" Miss, You can do it ! "

It is about a young woman with CP ( Cerebral Palsy who won as Miss America ( Or something like that ) and decided to use her fame to host a beauty contest for all girls in The U.S and Canaa who also had CP .

She wanted to motivate and encourage girls with CP and show them that having CP was NOT the end of the world !

And so she hostes this event approximately EVERY year and the girls come from all states and Canada with their guardians or parents and it is for them the most BEAUTIFUL experience because they are treated like princesses and do not have to think that their disability is a burden .

They have CP and it is OK :) !

They have the opportunity to participate in a non judgmental contest and become Miss America r Miss Wonderful and other !

The bottom line this woman who has CP and hosted a contest was motivating young girls to be themselves no matter what issues they have in life and that is motivation !

These girls knew that if this woman with CP could become Miss America then could they !

Inspiration is simply having an idea , But not really taking initiative.

Thank you for reading

Dusya

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Decisions vs Choices

I amnot sure that people nowadays know the difference between decisions an choices or even know what the phrase " Making a decision " means .

I say this because I read a lot people saying " You always have choices " .

Sorry,  But WRONG !

Let me give you a crash course in what the difference is between DECISION and CHOICE.

You may of course correct me if I am mistaken,  But the definition of choice is what I like or want .

If I have enough money on my debit card and I go to Marshals or Macy's to shop for clothes,  I look at two dresses and choose which dress I like best .

Or I am choosing between two Concert events .

When I make a decision then it is what I have to do and or being responsible like buying something responsibly.

For example,

I am on low income and have to DECIDE first what I can affor to buy .

I have to decide between 2 dresses meaning making a practical decision by looking at the dresses and thinking ; Although I like both dresses,  I have to decide which cost less AND which one I can put in a washmashin when it is dirty and not think about expensive dry cleaning costs !

Or when you buy a car , You make a decision based upon how much gasoline usage,  Insurance and maintenance.

Remember,  You cannot CHOOSE which auto insurance,  Gasoline price and or maintenance costs !

Or another example that everybody can relate to ;

When you are on low income,  You CANNOT CHOOSE where you live ( Or maybe you can , But to an extent ) . But when You are a white collar worker and can afford a car and such , Then of course you CAN CHOOSE where you want to live !
You can maybe even afford a Condo and YOU CHOOSE what house you like or Condo you like and buy it :) .

I could go on and on , But I think you get the idea .

Oh ! By the way , When you go to the library , You can DEFINITELY CHOOSE what you like !

Thank you for reading

Dusya